For 10 years, Dr. Patti Britton and Dr. Robert Dunlap built Sexology U. Dr. Patti tells their story.
We began with our own careers in sexology and were humming along when, BOOM!, something happened… Wait, I’ll tell you all about that in a few minutes.
Our careers in sexology spanned over 46 years combined, both of us armed with PhDs in Human Sexuality. My training manual about sex coaching had just come out in 2005. A couple of years later we joined the faculty of one of the most prestigious humanistic psychology grad schools (California Graduate Institute, which is now The Chicago School of Professional Psychology) –which led to becoming faculty at several other graduate institutions.
We were subtly being exposed to what therapists in training were saying about their lack of education in sexuality before our courses or mentorship were available. We were listening to what our clients were saying about their own medical professionals (urologists, family doctors and gynecologists) not being able to talk to them about their real sexual issues; or that their own therapists used the “donut hole” approach and never uttered a word about S-E-X in their couples’ counseling or individual therapy. Very few had the knowledge or skills, or even the courage, to speak the word “sex” in the clinical setting.
This scared the you-know-what out of us. ‘What? Only a handful of sexology specialists are competent enough to even initiate dialogue about sex, much less have that golden key to help them?’
Here’s the truth: So few professionals know what to say and what to suggest for their clients when it comes to sex.
This set us on fire. A lightbulb went off.
We looked at each other, (we were a real-life couple, too) and agreed in unison “We have to do something to train competent professionals to address the sexuality related concerns we are seeing in droves among people everywhere.”
So, after 6 years of training sex coaches around the world (now in 51 countries and Puerto Rico) and leading over 80 live events in sexology worldwide through our mission at Sex Coach University, we decided: It’s time.
That’s why you are here.
In July 2017, Dr. Robert, my partner in life, in work, and in this mission, passed away suddenly. He has left a legacy of intelligence, creative genius, loving presence, deep commitment, wisdom and savvy, as well as a passion for breaking the silence around sex that causes pain in so many lives. I carry on his legacy here at Sexology U, and in this way he lives on.
It is my mission to provide you with the top-notch training and credentials for you to serve the broad range of Sexological clinical concerns that may show up within your professional work.
My dream is to train and certify thousands of professionals from the fields of medical care, mental health, social work, coaches, educators and others with the talent to have free and open conversations with their existing clients to address the essence of the self: sexuality.
Without that, the “donut hole” approach is alive and well in clinical settings… doctors’ offices, therapy rooms, coaching calls or wherever help is offered to human beings who suffer sexually with their needs not being met.
To me, addressing the sexuality of an individual or couple is some of the highest calling we can answer.
I want to enable you to be able to recognize and soothe the wounds of a lost sex life, a sexless marriage, a woman faking orgasm, or a male whose erection failures make him doubt the essence of his masculinity, along with the deepest questioning among our GLBTQIAS clients.
Here’s my spin: To ignore or avoid the sexual part of the self is a tragedy.
Yet, I see a crisis of conscience happening now: Our research has shown a dearth of training in medical schools (3-10 hours tops) and in training of mental health care specialists, even those who are couples’ counselors of therapists, who take only a 10-hour course at best before they can become licensed to work with real live clients in all their human dimensions, including their sexuality.
I am here to change that. I am here to address the crying need.
I travel the world and see increasingly the universal suffering of that people in the silence of their bedrooms or in the isolation of their electronic worlds.
Dr. Robert and I co-founded Sexology University to be the first place of its kind. Together, we took the time to develop a tailored program, with some of the top names in the field of sexology to get you the education and training you deserve. I want you to find your peer community and join us in changing the world by bringing about sexual wellness, health and pleasure at the forefront of the very core work you can offer.
Ready? I hope so! It’s going to be an amazing journey, I promise.